Talk to successful people, and they will all tell you the importance of the right mindset. You see it in their eyes, in their body, in their every move – the people on top of the world think differently than most.
The habits in this post will help you remodel your mind, rewire your brain, and thus improve your mental power. This might all sound a little woo-woo, but it will all be clear soon. Think of your mind as a group of workers. If you put them in a messy room, give them no clear instructions and just let them do, nothing great will come out of it. However, give them a factory, the right tools, and organize them into a team, and they will be able to produce anything you want them to.
This process of “cleaning up” your mind and your environment, refocusing your mental energy and removing the blocks that hold you back will greatly improve your capacity to focus on the things that matter most.
“The busier we are, the more we need that centering time – that time to actually be able to connect to our inner wisdom.” – Arianna Huffington (Co-Founder Huffington Post)
Many famous, successful women swear by meditation for many reasons. It can help you start your day with energy and focus, help you relax during difficult times, improve many aspects of your life and simply make you happy.
If you think of doing weird things with your mind in weird positions – try to forget all that and start with an open mind. Especially if you are just getting started, meditation and mindfulness should help you find peace and quiet in a busy world, reconnect you with yourself and help you stay grounded. If your life is hard right now, it can help you come back stronger, deal with difficult emotions or even find new purpose in life.
Both mindfulness and meditation can be incorporated into your life rather easily, even if you are busy. Start the day with a short, 5-minute meditation session instead of checking your phone. Put your worries of yesterday away and calm down. Just sit somewhere relaxed and let your mind wander, but don’t get pulled too much into thoughts. If you find yourself worrying, think about all the good things in your life instead. Do this for just five minutes every morning, and you will notice the difference very soon.
You can later expand this with concentration meditation, where you focus on a single thing, like your breathing, for some time, letting all other thoughts drift past you. This can help you improve your focus and bring you clarity for the entire day.
Mindfulness is something you can practice all day – and it will take you a lot of time to really learn. Mindfulness is all about being aware of your thoughts instead of blindly acting on them. If you get angry or nervous about something, take a step back and observe your emotions first. Where do these emotions come from, what upsets you? Over time, you will learn to understand yourself better, be less at the mercy of your emotions (without suppressing them), and generally be more balanced and in harmony. In short, you will be a lot tougher emotionally and less upset by insignificant rocks that life throws at you. That gives you more mental capacity for what really matters.
Your Action Plan
Find five minutes every day, especially when you are stressed out, and sit down to relax. Take a few deep breaths, calm down, and let go of all your worries for just five minutes. You can continue worrying later if you must, but take a short break from all of it. Just breathe and think of the good things to come or happy memories of this week. Once you can do that with ease, you can look into more “advanced” forms of meditation. (Don’t worry – it’s all not that complicated, really.)
Also, whenever you react to something with a lot of emotion, try to take a deep breath and think about it for a second. Is that response really justified? Especially negative emotions like anger, fear or anxiety are often unjustified. Understand, that you are not the slave of how you feel, that you can choose to be happy and positive, whatever happens. Don’t ignore your emotions, accept that you feel them and that they are valid, but that you also choose not to act on them or feel bad for days – because you don’t have to.
Do you want more like this? This is taken from my book “20 Habits to be a Superwoman” – check it out if you want to read more.
“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves. We must believe we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” – Marie Curie (Physicist)
Positive self-affirmations are scientifically proven to have many benefits and can rewire your brain to be more positive, perform better and it can even improve your physical health.
All kinds of messages bombard our subconscious every day. From TV advertisement to things our colleagues and friends say, all these messages become beliefs in some way. Most of all the things we tell ourselves. I’ll be honest here for a second – I always talked myself down when I made a mistake. “Oh, I’m so stupid”, “I’ll never get this done in time”, “This will never work”,…
But those are dangerous thoughts. We say them, eventually truly believe them, and then they become reality.
Instead, reciting positive affirmations to yourself every day makes you believe the best in you instead of the worst. It can help you be grateful for all you have, happy about where you are in life, and optimistic about your future. Just the act of writing them down once can help you restore your confidence in yourself and remind you of what’s important. Reciting them daily keeps you on the right path and makes you strong enough to overcome all kinds of challenges.
A good affirmation is in the present – something you can do or be right now. It’s something you can believe in. Something tangible – “I am going to be rich” is bad for all reasons: It’s not in the present (which means it doesn’t help you in the present), it’s not something you can actively do or be (so you can’t act accordingly) and it’s not very specific.
Instead, you should try something like “I am working towards my goals every day and I know I will reach them in time.” This is in the present (I am working every day), it’s something you can do (not give up and be lazy, but keep working on your dreams), and it’s a specific guide to what you are doing. It also gives you hope when you lose the trust that everything will work out. Sometimes, the faith in ourselves to keep going is all we need.
The goal of an affirmation is usually to either remind yourself of your good qualities and potential, remind yourself to enjoy life, or to keep you on track to get where you want to go.
Here are some examples for both categories:
- I speak with confidence and assurance
- I feel energetic and full of life
- I appreciate every moment throughout the day
- I feel wonderful and alive
- I am in control of my behavior and my actions
- I organize my priorities
- I make the most of new opportunities
- I am successful in whatever I do
- I am courageous and stand up for myself
- I am indestructible.
Your Action Plan
Write down one or two positive affirmations on a sheet of paper. Recite them a few times every morning, evening or during your commute. You can also write one done to recite in the face of stress and pressure to keep you calm and sane. You will soon start to truly believe in your affirmation and feel its effect in your daily life.
In my book “20 Habits to be a Superwoman“, I cover these and 18 more habits for health, well-being, mental power, and success – to help you achieve your goals in life. It’s now available on Amazon!